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Let’s Talk about Truth, Bay-Bee. Let’s Talk about You and Me.

Dear Readers,

Christians today? We’re on the run. We’re refugees. The world has become a hostile place and we seem to be its target. I was just sharing with my good friend Tony Robbins how Christians are the last legitimate group of people who are discriminated against. He seemed confused and brought up minority groups, but most educated people understand what I’m saying.

It’s hard out there, isn’t it? Team Truth is taking some hits. In honor of you fallen spiritual soldiers who just keep getting up and pushing, I want to share some tips that I as a professonal author of several very well-known books (as well as a very provocative blog with hundreds of visits a day) have cultivated along the way. I hope they will help you communicate what the world needs.

1. Humble = right. Right = humble.
Mother Teresa once said, “The surest path to humility is humiliation.” While a wonderful and well-intended woman, this is terrible advice.

The goal of any Christian today is to be right. Right at all costs. Someone has to be the moral center for this nation. For this world. When Christians begin admitting we’re wrong, that’s not Kingdom thinking. Being wrong is for the weak of faith.

2. Approach atheists with caution.
Atheists are interested in one thing, and that one thing is destroying you. When they counter you online or off, it’s not to express their views. It’s not to share their story. It’s not motivated by the desire to understand. They want to destroy you. Me. Us. It’s important to not approach them with the desire to have a relationship, friends. Atheists should only be part of a strategy. I know, I know – it’s uncomfortable that atheists are all around us. Teachers, lawyers, chefs, parents, maybe even the parents at your school. Remember that all of these are simply roles they are playing in order to infiltrate the church and destroy it. Do not enter into relationships with them. Don’t take an interest in their career or their children. And whatever you do, do NOT ask them for advice. This sets up the wrong power dynamic with the atheist, it is always essential to remain the teacher – them the student. So let’s huddle up, backs to one another and go out into the world knowing who the enemy is. Phasers set to “preach”.

3. Drive by Truth is powerful.
Friends, the truth is like a bomb. It’s most effective when you drop it into a conversation when no one’s expecting it, and then get the heck out. Despite what others might say? How truth is delivered doesn’t matter. It just doesn’t. Sure, you’ll hear things like the tone argument when you’re debating the horrors of caucasians who are facing racism, for example. But in fact, even talking about tone in the first place is derailing. If you’re in doubt about that? I point you to Jesus calling people vipers. Case in point. Done and done. Cut, edit, film at 11. Finis.

At times, those who need the truth will manipulate you with their feelings. They do so by their pleas of “All I wish you would do is listen to how your approach and your behavior make me feel. You’re pushing me away, I wish you would respect me.” Do not let this sway you! You know what people really need, you know when they need it and you also know that as a Christian, you communicate on your terms. Because your terms, your timeline? Both are dictated by the Holy Spirit. So don’t bother with timing or tone of voice. Don’t worry about picking up on any emotional or body language cues that someone is uncomfortable. As a matter of fact, don’t bother with emotions at all, they can’t be trusted anyway. Drop the bomb of truth and if it doesn’t work? Drop it again. Do it over and over again.

Of course, when it comes to validating your feelings? That’s an entirely different animal. Your emotions as a Christian are valid. If you are offended or hurt, it’s important to give yourself license to communicate that. We are so frequently victimized by those we are trying so desperately to help. They are often rude and invasive, sometimes they shut us out of their lives. They even disagree with us! This is all very painful and you should feel entitled to express that without anyone challenging you.

4. Ask good questions.
When debating Christianity on the internet or anywhere, really – even when evangelizing – it’s important to realize that questions don’t even have to be questions. They can sometimes be used as traps to help the non believer understand how much they need what we’re offering. So listening to the answer? That’s fine to do, but I’d not focus on it too much. Doing so takes time and effort. Instead, try focusing on forming your next question while the atheist is taking the time to answer you thoughtfully. This works very well.

Another effective question is a statement in the form of a question; for example, “Why do you think that your heart is so hard that you’re not open to what I’m saying?” another favorite, “Why don’t you want to know what real Love is?” These questions help the listener understand that you’re not here to understand. You’re here to provide good news. Seek to talk through your questions, not to understand. Because what an atheist is or knows isn’t important until we say it.

5. Never let anyone suggest that you don’t know what you’e talking about.
This is the cardinal sin of any evangelist – giving up ground, regardless of how shaky it might be or how uninformed you might be about a particular topic. Never let anyone suggest that your understanding of Scripture is simply one interpretation. Others may have an interpretation, but you have the distilled, purified Jesus-only Christianity. Never let anyone suggest otherwise. They are trying to destroy you and if you admit that you might be wrong about something? They will. Poof. You are gone.

I hope you’ll reflect on these tips and as always, I hope they were helpful.